“The best times we’ve had on earth are usually with those we love.”
― Van Harden

Sometimes life gets busy. We get caught up in routines, deadlines, and the daily grind. In the midst of it all, it’s easy to forget the simple power of reminding those closest to us that they matter. But those small gestures, those moments of genuine connection, are the lifeblood of healthy marriages, relationships, and even workplaces. We can tell people they matter to us, but our actions must match our words.

Research by The  Gottman Institute reveals fascinating information on tools we can use to be better partners, leaders, and community members.

The magic 5 to 1 relationship ratio.
“For every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy marriage has five (or more) positive interactions.” When not in conflict, the ratio is 20 to 1. That number may feel steep and unachievable… start somewhere!

Pay attention to bids at home.
Bids are attempts to connect emotionally. They can be quite simple, like “Do you want to try a new restaurant this weekend?” How we respond to bids matters.

Bids in the workplace.
When employees reach out with a question or desire to connect, put down your phone and listen. It sounds easy, but in our fast paced world it’s not always the case.

For more from John and Julie Gottman, listen to this recent podcast

By incorporating these small, yet powerful, actions into your daily life, you can strengthen your relationships, build trust, and remind those around you just how much they matter.

Remember every interaction, positive or negative, is a chance to build or break a connection. Choose to build, and watch your relationships blossom.

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Let’s remind the world that they are seen, valued, and loved.

You matter.


Cheryl Rice, Founder

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